The divorce process is often equated to being on a roller coaster. Not only is divorce full of many emotional ups and downs, but you also never quite know what to expect. This is particularly true in cases where divorcing spouses aren’t able to come to an agreement about how assets should be divided or who should retain primary child custody of a child. In cases where a divorce case becomes contentious and is headed for court, it’s important to be prepared.

For anyone, being in a courtroom and before a judge can be an intimidating and scary experience. Add in the high emotions and strong feelings that tend to accompany divorce battles and, if you’re not prepared, you could end up doing or saying something that could negatively affect the outcome of your divorce case.

It’s crucial, therefore, to do your homework prior to entering a courtroom. A divorce attorney can answer questions about divorce procedures and provide advice about appropriate courtroom conduct. For better or worse, divorce judges are often pressed for time and a judge is likely, therefore, to pay close attention to anything and everything that may provide clues about each party’s demeanor, character and intent.

To make a good impression in court, it’s important to dress in appropriate and business-like attire. Additionally, you should always be punctual, courteous and patient while in court and before a judge. This applies to any and all exchanges with your soon-to-be ex-spouse as well as his or her attorney. In addition to any verbal statements, comments or exchanges that you make or engage in; a judge is also likely to pay attention to your body language and other nonverbal cues. From drumming your fingers on the table or incessantly yawning to rolling your eyes or shaking your head, sometimes what you don’t say speaks volumes.

With so much at stake in a divorce case, you don’t want to leave anything to chance. That’s why it’s so important to formulate a plan with your attorney before you ever set foot in court and to stick to an agreed upon strategy for achieving your divorce goals.

Source: Huffington Post, “4 Tips To Help You Succeed In Divorce Court,” Joseph E. Cordell, April 11, 2016