In the coming weeks, kids across Springfield will be heading back to the structure and routine of a new school year. In preparation, parents will be doing some back-to-school shopping, checking out class schedules, meeting teachers and doing whatever needs to be done to prepare their kids for the next year.
There are few guarantees in life. When you meet the love of your life, there's no guarantee that your wedding day will go off without a hitch. Once you're married, there's no guarantee that your union will persist through the years. And if you get divorced, there's no guarantee that whatever agreement you reach will be the same on day one of your divorce as day 1,000. In fact, in relation to the latter, it's highly unlikely it will remain the same.
For parents who choose to divorce, the wellbeing of a shared child is often the main concern. In cases where parents share physical custody of a child, it's critical that both remain committed to providing a loving, welcoming and supportive environment in which a son or daughter feels safe and comfortable. In addition to ensuring that a child has a predictable routine, proper nutrition and the creature comforts needed to feel at home in each parent's residence; a child also needs to know that his or her parents are committed to each other and the responsibilities associated with co-parenting.
Sharing custody of your children with another parent after divorce can be enormously difficult, whether the split was contentious or not. Divorced spouses often prefer to avoid seeing or speaking to each other after they are no longer married, but parents who share custody of a child still have to communicate, and they still have to see each other during custody exchanges.
From sleepless nights spent walking the halls with a colicky infant to those spent waiting up for a rebellious teenager, being a parent is one of the most rewarding, yet challenging roles that an individual can hope to fulfill during his or her life. When a marriage dissolves, there's bound to be an adjustment period. In addition to adjusting to life as a divorcee, divorced parents must also figure out how to successfully and peaceably co-parent with an ex. While every individual's situation is unique, there are ways to make co-parenting easier and less stressful for everyone involved.
Divorce is meant to provide individuals who no longer wish to be married a fresh start. However, when there are children involved-- for better or worse--divorced parents are forever bound to one another. Unfortunately, in cases where divorced parents aren't able to overcome and move beyond their own resentment or dislike of one another, their child will end up paying the price.
With the start of any new year, change is a common theme. People often make resolutions to make positive changes in their lives. Exercising more, eating healthier and taking time to pause and enjoy life are all common New Year's resolutions. In cases where an individual is in an unhappy marriage, filing for divorce may also top one's list of resolutions.
Later this week, families throughout Illinois and the United States will gather to celebrate the Thanksgiving holiday. For parents who are recently divorced or going through a divorce, this holiday season is likely to be filled with many challenging firsts including having to communicate and coordinate with one's ex or soon-to-be ex-spouse and not spending the entire holiday with one's children.